Hey, I'm Aishwarya
If you want to outgrow fear, and overcome self limiting beliefs and habits, in order to enjoy healthy, loving relationships and take charge of your life - but don’t know how or where to start this page is for you.
I’ll help you make sense of the familiar patterns of unresolved, contradictory, and irrational thoughts and feelings that keep you stuck in the same place with the same problems only in different formats, while life passes by...
My content is practical, actionable and cuts to the heart of the matter.
But first, to make it clear, this is not just another personal development or relationship website. You’ll find gazillions of resources online on those topics, if that’s what you want.. But it’s my belief that you can’t really develop yourself, and know yourself unless you choose to act in a way that makes crystal clear sense to you.
And you most certainly cannot hope to be in a healthy relationship if you don’t know how to relate to yourself first.
It's about the journey from confusion to clarity which is actually the journey from the outer to the inner.
It is this journey that gives meaning to your life. So that’s why, unlike websites and blogs which focus on the externals like projecting a happy life, landing the perfect partner or having great relationships etc.. and don’t directly address the root cause of problems, here’s where we focus on the ‘why’, ‘how’ and ‘what’. Here’s where you get real with yourself, and go beyond the obvious to focus on the core issues that you are facing.
Because the thing is, if you don’t want to look inwards and SEE yourself, then you won’t be able to solve any external problems.
Most people find it difficult to accept an unfamiliar situation, the easy thing by far, is to stay the same and try to somehow get by. And it’s fine. But it comes at a price which most of us aren’t aware of. That causes all sorts of problems and we have no idea where it came from.
I believe there’s more to relationships, and indeed life, than just making superficial changes to quick fix things that are bothering us.
If this resonates with you, then you’re in the right place.
What does 'Big Break Theory' mean?
In conventional terms, a big break is often defined as a chance, an opportunity, or turn of events of great consequence, especially those that relate to worldly success. If you think about it, it represents much more than that...
It's about overhauling and improving all aspects of life. It's something that changes your life and as an extension, your relationships and the way you work in a positive way, something that will create more opportunities in the future. It's about giving yourself a chance at real happiness and more importantly, inner peace.
Because it almost always comes in the form of a predicament, problem or conundrum that you cannot seem to solve or ignore, it can be upsetting and unsettling.
The thing to remember is this -
You have been the sole witness to all of the things that you have experienced so far, so you have the power to change, simplify your life and make a positive difference to it going forward, using a system of ideas based on your values and inherent nature.
In other words, you give yourself the big break in life.
Who am I? Why I do what I do?
I'm a writer, empowerer and interested in the process of meaning-making.
I’ve had some pretty amazing jobs over the years and I’ll always be grateful for the security and experiences that came with it. But somewhere within me, I always knew that a regular job wasn’t for me in the long run and that I really needed to do what comes naturally to me.
I have been seeing patterns in relationships, people’s behaviour and ways of thinking my whole life. Most of the time, it is so subconscious that it took me a while to realise it. It would have helped greatly, if instead of feeling like the odd one out for . For me, relationship or even personal success in general, is not about flaunting it or trying to live up to other people’s standards.
It’s about figuring out what success looks like to you, based on what’s important to you, and then taking steps to create that success.
Actually, most of us would agree to this, but somehow when it comes to following this line of awareness, we somehow can’t muster up the courage that it asks of us.
So that’s why I’m here writing this.
I love finding out everything about the human condition - in particular the individual’s journey from a place of self limitation to self growth, and how it impacts one’s life and relationships. I want to bring that information to you, and show you how great that journey that can be, when it comes from a place free of fear, from right within you.
Here's what you can expect from this site:
- Understand how to become more self aware about your needs and the kind of relationships and career you’re looking to build, and the roadmap to get there.
- Strategy, tips and content to take charge of your life, and participate in it rather than observe it from the sidelines. Learn what it really takes to become a leader.
- Support, motivation and accountability to outgrow fear and self doubt, not to mention the mild anxiety which strikes from time to time.
- Helpful ideas on where to start and how to keep the momentum going.
I’m not a psychologist or mental health professional of any sort. Neither do I claim to have all the answers, but I’ll let you in on what years of personal experiences and observations along with careful knowledge gathering have taught me.
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These are not notifications of blog posts but fresh doses of inspiration to build the right relationships, life skills and mindset.
Things happen for a reason...
Looking back, I held a lot of self limiting beliefs in my 20s. I did not have a strong identity of my own and I was always confused about what I really wanted.
That was threatening to carry itself into my thirties too, and I decided that enough is enough. Fine, I may never reach that ideal state, but
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Have you ever hit a crossroad in life?
They call it the point of inflection.
You might’ve somehow made it to that stage without seriously questioning yourself or the way things are, but you get a sense that the same ol’ will simply not do anymore.
Well, I reached that point 5 years ago, I had just gotten out of a relationship which clearly wasn’t right for me. Work life was no better, I knew I was inching towards the end of a dead end career. I didn’t feel good or even stable about where I was in life, and at the same time, I felt stuck.
In between envying the 'easy' life of others, and my own perceived flaws.. I somehow managed to ask myself that important existential question - Is this all there is to life?
Something within me told me it isn’t.
And that’s how Big Break Theory was born.
In the last fifteen odd years, I've tried to
Fun Facts About Me:
- Home is New York City, where I live with my husband. I'm originally from India, moved here a few years ago, and this amazing city never ceases to inspire me.
- I’m a social introvert. My love for doing work that's meaningful to me and connecting with people through that, automatically makes me more extroverted than I am normally.
- I was one of those doodling students in the class, and it used to help me understand the concepts being taught.
- I enjoy writing, even fiction (for fun) and I write on most days.
- I love a good cup of tea and love to try different varieties.
Send me a note here. You can also drop me an email directly at aishwarya[at]bigbreaktheory[dot]com
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