So you met this guy and clicked with him. You thought things were going really good, but he doesn’t call you back. It can be crushing when you think you’ve met the right guy, had a great date and POOF he disappears! So what do you do when you don’t hear back from them? Nothing. You move on.
Now i know it feels like a blow to your ego, and its not easy for most people to accept that they don’t meet someone’s interest. It usually seems worse than it actually is. Dating someone is a matter of chance, it may or may not work. Your perceptions of things could be different from theirs. Just because you think the date went well, doesn’t necessarily mean they share the same view.
You might have thought you were attracted to each other, that there was chemistry, a spark whatever.. but the other person might’ve sat there thinking how boring and tedious it all seemed. Sometimes a guy IS interested but not enough to pursue things. You often get to meet the regular flip flappers this way who make half hearted efforts, be careful to steer clear of those.
Its important to understand that not every guy will be upfront about a lack of interest. Many people will keep stringing you along, sometimes on further dates even though they know deep down that it’s not working for them. Why? Because often they want to avoid conflict, and don’t want any unpleasantness. They just need you there because they like the attention and its nice to have a ‘back up’ always. This is why you shouldn’t get carried away and only make judgments based on reality. Did they tell you they had a good time and would like to meet again? Did they call you after the date?
That said, you may wonder why they din’t call back.. truth is there could be any reason why they din’t get in touch with you. Maybe they thought they were ready for dating but they weren’t really, maybe they’re commitment phobic or it could be a case of simply not being interested.
Whatever the reason is, it doesn’t matter. Bottom line is they weren’t interested enough to call you.
Instead of wasting energy trying to figure out the reasons, get on with your life. If you keep pondering, soon you’ll get to the stage where you’re tempted to call them back and find out what happened and that can only lead to an embarrassing situation at best. The important thing to remember is not to make this all about yourself. If someone doesn’t call back, its their decision based on their judgment of the situation not yours. Ask yourself this, if a guy doesn’t call you back after a great date, then do you even want to be with someone who perceives things so differently? If they are not really interested, why are you?
If you din’t hear back from them, instead of making excuses for them or trying to find faults with yourself, just let it go. Keep it as a personal rule. You don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. Period.
If you spend time obsessing over the fact that they din’t call, you’re missing out on making yourself available to someone who might be interested. Why waste time thinking about someone who lacks the common courtesy to call and let you know one way or the other? Just live your life, stop worrying about people who don’t matter and you will attract people that do.
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